Profit has a tangible downside
People think medicine is care
And drug companies seek money
Human need and money are in conflict
Money undermines compassion
Requires doctors to reach monetary goals
The money is winning.
You can’t defeat a bully on their terms
They play a game of likeability
They count on your shame
But you can defy the game they play
Embrace their joke as your own
Not to make them laugh with you
But in deciding you like yourself
Be okay with your awkward and wierd
Make their mocking foolish
Because you know who you are
When you embrace your identity
Your answer becomes, “yes, and…?”
Because you aren’t ashamed
If they can’t get a rise out of you
They’ll likely loose interest
What’s the point of teasing
When no one cares.
Most days I don’t hate people
I remember we’re flawed humans
Who rarely intend to harm
And the people in my life
Are mostly kind with intent
But then there are the exception
The loud and ugly minority
That make me doubt humanity
They bully and bluster and pontificate
They find joy in putting others down
And I really hate those people
I feel small in their angry presence
They hurt my feeling with intent
They make me doubt the world
I know memory will fade with time
Distance will bring me perspective
But today I really don’t like them
Still scorched by their recent kiss.
Would you like to be spoken over
Have your story told by someone else
Someone that didn’t ask permission
Didn’t even ask for your take
Telling a second hand impression
Speaking to experience they never had
Casting you as a paper cutout
Good or bad or childlike or inspiring
A being without dimensions
They even tell you the words to use
How to describe your own story
This is the disabled experience
Having our stories told by others
Don’t be an advocate in place of us
Nothing about us without us.
I’m not a winner
my hard work hasn’t lead
to some great reward
I’m just getting by
I haven’t been blessed
by easy chances or ready success
I’m very aware that life is hard
I don’t have lots of friends
and I’m not easy to know
popularity isn’t something I have
or even something I strive for
I’m terrible at meeting new people
experience has taught me that only a few
won’t blanch when they see the real me
I’m not a pretty girl
you could call me big or bold
but never dainty, graceful, or serene
I’m stuborn and prideful
I might know how to play the game
but I can’t stomach it
so I sit on the sidelines
I won’t give everything
so that everyone will like me
I’d rather like myself
Maybe I am to be pittied
I don’t have that much
just my self respect
people I’d trust with my life
and a passion that drives me
measured against the world
I’m not a winner
some might even go so far
as to call me a loser
but at least I’m a happy loser
instead of a depressed sucess.
Polite society is ridiculous
Assigning arbitrary behaviors
Enforcing made up rules
It may teach some to fit in
But it’s end purpose is exclusion
Polite isn’t kind or compassionate
It’s duplicitous and backhanded
A lack of social knowledge
And it culls you from the herd
There is no survival purpose
Just subtle ways to harm outsiders.
Don’t talk to me about bootstraps
I was raised in sneakers
And my laces won’t hold my weight
But that’s kinda the point
“Pull yourself up by your bootstraps”
Is the dismissive shorthand of apathy
The saying is a posture of priveledge
As if misfortune is a personal problem
As if an independent spirit is the cure
Even those born with boots
Can’t pull themselves up by straps
The fortunate prescribe a magic trick
An absurd act of impossibility
Knowing that boots don’t trickle down
Knowing that straps cant make us fly
We are held down by our own feet
Our absurdity is asking for help
Some extra hands to lift us up.
This is harder than it sounds
Work is presented as not plesant
The social contract doesn’t suggest joy
Work is a pain we must endure
But life is too short to hate
You give a job so much time
Aim for minor annoyance
Or find a way to be grateful
Find a way to settle into acceptance
The gamble against misery is worth it
Find compromise through choice
Find a way to be less miserable.
Youth, beauty, and health,
You can stun flies with fumes
Your vinegar may be fragrant
But it isn’t exactly attractive
It only captivates other stinkers
Honey is sweet and lasting
It sparkles in the sun
If you dont want enemies
Try to be less mean or cruel
Consider a different fuel
Try fake it til you make it
Even if the cake is inedible
You can still layer it with frosting
It’s not that flies are smart
But they don’t return to bitter.
I don’t owe corporate greed
My sick days are owed to me
They are a part of my liberty
I deserve to rest and recoperate
I’m not stealing from billionaires
By having the common cold
Or needing a mental health day
Or taking care of family
The news tries to spin it
Like sick days are theft
That any lack of productivity
Is a corporate loss
From their mountains of wealth
But that’s pure gasslighting
A spin and twist of the truth
Eugenics and abelist rhetoric
I see past their con
And wonder how anyone buys it.
Let me be the one you respect
Not the one you’d sext
Because I’m past the age
Of being a piece of ass
I’m old enough to be a friend
Glad to let the shine wane
I don’t want the polish of new
I need to be a colloquial term
Deem me your “Ol’ girl”
A term of sexless endearment
Removed from sex appeal.
Men don’t want wide ass attitude
They might find defiance interesting
A passing delight but not a wife
Not trying to trap a mediocre man
Not to starve for acceptance
I’m supposed to be gracious
Understanding and forgiving
Of my oppressors
Because they are human
Because they don’t know better
And me questioning their actions
Doesn’t fit their narrative
I’m supposed to be nice
And play the game silently
While they demean me
While they ignore my needs
Because speaking up is rude
Being loud is unseemly
And when they pile my plate full
I’m supposed to smile at the shit
The steaming pile they give to me
And act like I’m eager to eat it.
Forgiveness isn’t for the other person
It’s about what we carry around
Do we live in anger and frustration
Do we let resentment run our life
Do we let pain stain our everyday
Or do we find a way to let it go
A boundary isn’t a rule you set
It’s an action taken in responce
When a request is actively ignored
A rule is asking for for respect
But when someone refuses to comply
A boundary is consequences
Anger is a fierce fleeting feeling
We can give the flame a purpose
Or choose to let the fire die
When we’re intentional with that heat
We’re less likely to get burnt.
There are two types of hypochondriac
My PTSD is based in reality
Being miserable is normal
Suggesting you ignore the bad
But authentic positivity is a habit
Choosing to see the breadcrumbs
On an seemingly empty plate.
I pass as able-bodied
My experience is not common
But I’m not going to convince them.
Be yourself isn’t always good advice
The stories you tell of your life
Don’t leave you in a good light
You think I should agree with you
That the villain was the other party
Maybe they aren’t appealing cohorts
But the part you played was worse
Investing into a narrative of revenge
As if bad behavior deserves more
Stories of malice are a red flag
A warning I should protect myself
You had the option to walk away
Not to return their tit for your tat
At least now I know the future to come
One day I’ll be a villain in your story
Unless I’ve earned that title already.
Maybe I’m asking too much
Taking my truth at face value
Eventually the cast comes off
Eventually you get better
The law doesn’t prosecute implicit bias
In the case of discrimination
The burden is on the victim
To prove intent of wrongdoing
They are allowed to discard us
They just have to disprove intent
At will firing is unethical
You don’t think you want to kill me
You wish me to silence
As I remind you of mortality
You wish me to be invisible
You can’t imagine what you can’t see
You wish me to be magically healed
But you deny to wishing me dead
You believe yourself sympathetic
Long as I don’t turn a mirror on reality.
I was awesome in bed
And rarely respected by men
A female iconoclast
Easier to label me as crazy
Perceived crazy is female power
More than actual mental illness
Didn’t fit in to the social standard
Or forced gender roles
My crazy eyes were just wide
Full of my ability to think
Eyes full of true to myself
Instead of complicit in servitude.
Ugly is liberatings
If we must be perceived
Let it be without constraints
As beauty is a trap
If we don’t conform
We can speak our minds
Live free in our truth
Deference supports the power
Don’t have to defer
Ugly can be power.
Health is fluid, it isn’t permanent
Any aceptance of trans women
Crazy cat ladies don’t seek approval
Talking is my love language
Friendship my group therapy
I seek any excuse for verbal bonding
I’m eager to talk about my feelings
But I cringe at collective hate
We don’t need to assign a villain
The chaos of life can take the blame
Existential dread is heavy enough
Ganging up on others is petty
And distacts from authenticity
I don’t need a scapegoat in life
I need a companion to actively listen
A partner for intense conversation.
I can be uniquely me
This isn’t really my story
Trying to erradicate bad genes
Forgetting that we are all human
Lack of health is a social sin
Akin to failed beauty
The flawed are shamed
Blamed for their imperfection
When we didn’t ask to be born
We survive what birth gave us.
You act like we’re two faced
Like it’s a manipulative choice
To mask or code switch
You act like we have a choice
But we’re trained from infancy
There’s a right and a wrong way
And our natural way is wrong
We don’t want to lie or hide
We’d choose authenticity
If there wasn’t external shame
Stop telling us to act normal
You taught us to have these faces
You’re just mad we said it
Mad we admit our fake isn’t real.
It’s easy to fall in lust
And falling hurts
I will be by myself.
My ethics are horizontal
I care about those around me
I pay attention to harm done
I don’t rely on prescribed rules
Because I live in this world.
Don’t suggest my life is unlivable
Being grateful for this life.
The joke is so cliche
Grandma was angry and bitter
Spreading around misery
Sharing her ongoing pain
My Mother broke the cycle
She defied the bitter
She chose authentic kindness
So I emulate mom’s choice
I may live in pain
But I don’t have to spread it
I don’t have to infect others
Sharing my pain isn’t caring
I don’t choose bitter or angry
I choose to sappy sweet
I choose to infect my joy.
I wanna be a rocking chair
Like a thrifted sweater
Or an overused metaphor.
Don’t ask me for advice
I’m not looking to influence you
Certainly not a guru
Or a psychic or telepathic
I know my choices
And how to live with them
My knowledge stops in myself
I don’t have your lived experience
Or know how you will feel
I don’t have a model of you
To reference in my opinions
So I keep them to myself
Let us not confuse each other
Or confound our perspectives
I restrict my words
On purpose.
I have no control
It would help if I could let go
The things that happened
Are now sealed in the past
My mind spinning over mistakes
Just makes the now miserable
But I can’t change my past
I may have some control
Of how my future self acts
But mistakes are human
And I’m prone to be flawed
So I’m stewing in my juices
These ruminations eat at me
But produce nothing of value
Here I am trying to let go
As my anxious mind clings.
The list of things I can’t change is long
Elizebeth Turnquist 